Don't Fall
Some woman want to fall madly in love and get married. Some of us plan out our wedding day before we even meet the man of our dreams, in all of it's splendor we pick out our dream location and yes, even the dress.
But as we trickle along the dating field we find ourselves becoming more and more restless in our efforts to find that special someone. It seems in today's society a relationship has become more of a business deal rather than a emotional base.
Couples sit at a table and negotiate how the relationship should be, the problem arises when one person wants a little more than what the deal originally states. This slighted emotion usually falls within women, some women want more than what they originally presented.
When this happens you may have some women who break off the relationship, seeing that it is not going in the direction they hope for. Then you have those who keep trying therefore placing them in the following categories:
1- The Settler: this is the type who will settle in a unsuccessful relationship in hopes of it one day changing.
2- The Roommate: you guys have lived together for a while and in the beginning it was nice playing house, but now playtime is over and you want the real thing. Problem is he doesn't, he is thinking it was never a problem before so why is it now.
3- The Continuous Baby Mama: this type believes that a baby will solidify a relationship. When the baby comes everything is wonderful you guys are in love and have created a bond that can't be severed, but when the baby gets older his feelings for YOU (not the child) becomes distant and cold. So hey let's have another baby, this time it's not what you expected he has become more distant than usual and fights are increasing. He feels you slighted or trapped him, then the baby comes and its back to baby bliss but for how long? Remember he hasn't forgotten how he felt about you before the baby, his mind is just preoccupied with the new life you guys created.
Couples sit at a table and negotiate how the relationship should be, the problem arises when one person wants a little more than what the deal originally states. This slighted emotion usually falls within women, some women want more than what they originally presented.
When this happens you may have some women who break off the relationship, seeing that it is not going in the direction they hope for. Then you have those who keep trying therefore placing them in the following categories:
1- The Settler: this is the type who will settle in a unsuccessful relationship in hopes of it one day changing.
2- The Roommate: you guys have lived together for a while and in the beginning it was nice playing house, but now playtime is over and you want the real thing. Problem is he doesn't, he is thinking it was never a problem before so why is it now.
3- The Continuous Baby Mama: this type believes that a baby will solidify a relationship. When the baby comes everything is wonderful you guys are in love and have created a bond that can't be severed, but when the baby gets older his feelings for YOU (not the child) becomes distant and cold. So hey let's have another baby, this time it's not what you expected he has become more distant than usual and fights are increasing. He feels you slighted or trapped him, then the baby comes and its back to baby bliss but for how long? Remember he hasn't forgotten how he felt about you before the baby, his mind is just preoccupied with the new life you guys created.
Falling in love is a wonderful feeling and it shouldn't be used as a bargaining tool. When in a relationship make sure that person is right for you not right for the moment. Some women find themselves in one of the following categories trying to hold on or build a solid relationship using shaky foundation.
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