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Being single is not an easy task before I wrote this piece I had to take time out to reflect on my single journey.  Graphing the various observations and experiences I posed a question to myself what do men think when they first view women. I've been told by several different men that a man knows what he wants from a woman when he first comes into contact with her. Men have prior knowledge on rather they want to wife you ( and I mean wife you literally, not playing house) or sex you. There's some truth behind this statement,  when I worked as a engineering assistant I encountered this guy who was let's just say almost perfect. The attraction was mutual, one day after work we went out for drinks as we sat and conversed about various different subject matters, he informed me that while he was very much attracted to me I was not the type he would play with. He stated I was the type that a man would settle down with and marry, he was not ready to settle down. He s

To know the truth is to know thyself,  seeking love in this hectic society can be both challenging and sorrowful. The promise of securing a special relationship is a process of first knowing and embracing yourself.  Although it may sound cliche' when you know yourself you're already in a better position of finding someone for you. Some women make the mistake of allowing a relationship to solidify their identity, a relationship is not suppose to solidify your identity but enhance the beautiful traits that lie within your identity. Taking time out to find out what you want in life and in a partner can present a new perspective in your life. Self reflection will also assist in viewing your personal imperfection, when you look at your faults you're able to correct them. Take time to know and love yourself first then allow the right person to love you.

When looking at relationships in today's society I can't help to ask myself why we as women keep repeating negative relationship cycles? In past times it has been the norm for us to blame the man for relationship downfalls and in certain situations I can agree. But in some other situations one has to ask herself what part did I play in the downfall. Did I really listen and look at what my boyfriend was telling me or did I just build this relationship around what I wanted and needed. One mistake women make is not paying attention to what is going on in the relationship.  Many of us feel slighted or "blind-sided" when the relationship ends, were we really blind-sided or was our partner telling us all along what was coming. Men display certain signs that they aren't interested in moving forward with you. Some signs consist of: Suddenly withdrawing-the man is separting from you. This can be in both mental and physical.  Conversations are at a minimum-he ha