Talk About It

Oh those three letter words can drive anyone mad. There are so many topics one can cover when discussing this hot topic, let's see where can we start? sex on the first date. Is it OK to have sex on the first date, me personally will not ever do it, but there are certain circumstances that people just can't help themselves the attraction or liquor is so high that some just can't resist and just completely give in. After the deed is done and all feelings are disposed of what happends next, some people find themselves really looking for love but get caught up with their sex drive. Therefore they entertain the wrong individuals, and end up with the short end of the stick, even though you may have good intentions if you display your goods to early you could be repeating the sex cycle all over again.  Question: Sex on the first date, is it ok? why or why not?

How many of you guys tried online dating, Right now I am trying a series of online dating websites to see which ones are effective. Online dating has become the new theme for overall dating, you meet someone and click there you have it your ideal match. But I will not give up on the traditional face-to-face meeting and dating scene but I just want to see how effective is online dating. I will keep you guys posted the outcome of my adventures in online dating. In the meantime share your experiences with online dating good or bad.

It's funny how many times I've heard the same complaints about relationship issues from men and women, why can't she or he act right?, why are they so jealous and insecure? Or why can't I find a good woman or man? It seems to me that there might not be that much of a difference between problems men have with women and women have with men.  I hear men complain about the type of women they have relationships with are basically no good and I hear women complain about the same issues dealing with men, now grant it they are not the exact same complaints but damn near. So I ask what is the issues? If as women or men we know what we want why do we entertain what we don't want and then complain about it? And if men and women are basically complaining about the same flaws within relationships why can't they seem to find each other and have a genuine relationship?

Cheating, is very hot subject matter when talking about relationships, I can't tell you how many conversations I've been involved in dealing with relationships that always end with questions about cheating. Is it okay to take your partner back after cheating?  or is cheating just an unforgivable crime in a relationship that has no room for forgiveness? So I ask the question are you a person who forgives your partner's cheating heart or a person who has no room cheaters in their life?

When is it comfortable to move on from a past relationship? Some people move rather fast jumping from one person to another, but are they really moving on or are they just replacing the missing part of their lives.  I personally believe in healing your heart and soul before stepping into a new relationship, you never want to carry baggage from a previous relationship into a new one.  Also it gives you a chance to really get to know yourself, know what you really want in a mate, know what you will and will not go for in a relationship. Tell me how you guys feel, when is it comfortable to move on from a past relationship?

What are the elements of love, what is so different in today's society where marriages and relationships seem to fall before they are securely structured? Back in February the longest living couple whom have been married for over 84 years were giving relationship advice for others seeking to save or rekindle their relationship. One comment from them that stuck the most to me is when they stated "communication is key" and there are no magical or quick fixes in marriage". Sometimes I feel by us living in such a quick and instant society we tend to look for a quick fix and if that fix or change doesn't come quick enough then hey the relationship is over. Now granted they are some relationship situations  that are straight to the point deal-breakers, but there are some that can be worked-out if the love is really strong. You sometimes have to think what has that couple gone through after 84 years of marriage. I think we as people should figure out first what can and