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So when I first heard the term live-in mistress I was confused, how can a woman who lives with her boyfriend be a live-in mistress. The whole idea of one being a mistress is being the man's side chick not the one he lives with or has a relationship with right. Well let's take a look, when I asked what in the world is a live-in mistress I was told its basically the woman is being used for a living space or temporary emotional fix for a man until he finds the one he desires to marry. During that time the man dates other women as if he is single, once he begins to envision himself with someone else or becomes closer to the other woman your place becomes more like a mistress and less of a girlfriend. The work he usually puts in to your relationship he is now focusing on something that is more permanent, something he can see himself growing from. The problem that exist is some women don't know that they have become the live-in mistress, they assume if the man is still the...

As I read some post regarding natural hair versus weaved hair, I can't help to think about the song by soul artist India Arie titled "I am Not My Hair". In the song Ms. Arie explains what I do to my hair is not who I am on the inside, I agree, far too many times we judge people based on their outside appearance versus how they are on the inside.  Leading us to make inappropriate judgment calls, I for one have worn my hair natural, relaxed, weaved, braids and so, how I wear my hair weighs on what I believe looks good on me, not on what the public believes how I should look. People should look at each others personalities not how their hair looks, I have found rudeness in both people that wear natural and weaved hair. I have also found low self-worth in both hair types, it's not the hair that makes the person genuine or more self-aware it's the connection within themselves and their awareness and understanding of the world around them. Black women throughout time ...

Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time? 

As the world evolves and generations past some people are astonished by the overwhelming situations women still put themselves through. I compiled a list of thoughts that women should tell other women about: 1. Loving yourself is more than buying yourself fancy clothes, the latest shoes and driving the latest car. Loving yourself comes from within; it comes from being comfortable within your skin setting goals and values and living in the light rather than the dark. 2. In order to build a strong family you must first have a strong relationship with each other. We as women tend stay in unfulfilled relationships hoping for a change, but the change never comes. Instead of realizing that the relationship is a bust, we tend to attempt to build a family using shaky and worn out foundation that will soon crumble and fall.  3. Stop having babies to get you closer to the alter. Point blank if a man wants to be with you and marry you then guess, what he would have done it ...

As I was channel suffering this past Saturday morning I came across this interesting panel, discussing the different cultures involved in the civil rights movement. Among those speaking was a gentleman who was a former member of the Black Panther Party, what I found interesting was the abundance of community projects and programs (some still in existence today) that this group in correlation with other multicultural groups started. I share with you a part of history that has been brushed to the side. A time in history where people of different backgrounds worked together for a common cause. http://www.c-span.org/video/?321701-3/discussion-civil-rights-multiracial-cooperation